Gossip, Men Do It Too
Written by Steve Vaughn on September 11, 2018
A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret
A while back in a men’s bible study I attended, we had a great discussion concerning the same issue that today’s Proverb deals with. It seems that our culture, with as many downturns as it’s taken, has a few upsides. Concerning men, we have in some demographics, begun to allow each other into our lives. That is to say, we share more today than maybe we used to. We have even gone so far as to talk about our “feelings”. However, we still find some difficulty going against the old fashioned approach to keeping everything bottled up. In our discussion we found that men are more apt to open up based on the level of trust we have in one another. Today’s “gold nugget” says, “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” One of the reason men are reluctant to open up about issues that they may be having or areas of weakness that they need strength in, is because of the lack of trust they have in each other. Despite how much we may like to claim that gossiping is a woman’s weakness; the fact is we all have the ability to fail in this area. I have found in my experiences that men have just as much fault with gossiping as women. We just have a different style and delivery. We both want to share our inside information as well as get the inside information. Our topics of choice or maybe better said, our targets of choice may differ between women and men, but the immoral act of gossiping is the same in God’s eyes.
Today’s Proverb covers two angles of gossiping. Just in case you might wonder if gossiping is when you reveal a secret someone told you, be sure that it’s more than that. If I know of someone’s secret by hearing it or observing it first hand, revealing it to others is just as much betrayal and gossip as if the person had revealed it to you in confidence. It is not our place to spread someone else’s business – period. If we are to ever be able to open up to one another and benefit from each other’s wisdom and accountability, we must, must, must be able to have confidence in one another’s ability to be trust worthy.
Source from Proverb for the Day.