Love Is Not A Commodity

Written by on March 31, 2021

I have often seen social media posts and quotes that say things like “I’ve given up on wasting time worrying about people who don’t like me” or “I’m only going to expend energy loving the people who love me.”  (I’m paraphrasing here of course.)  And while I understand the underlying principle, I disagree with the idea that Love is a transaction.  That doesn’t mean that I advocate staying in abusive relationships, and I don’t encourage being taken advantage of as a standard operating procedure.   But if we treat love as a commodity to be withheld, traded, or accumulated, we take away its real value.  

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love.  We love because he first loved us.

1 John 4: 18-19

In other words, we’re not yet perfect, but in each act of love shown we become more so.  Every time we practice loving kindness we come closer and closer to perfection.  In each moment of Christian fellowship and unity born from a desire for others’ strengthened relationship with God, we see perfection manifested in our hearts and in our world.  Receiving love of this magnitude fills us with a desire to be as good as the love makes us feel… to be as good as it tells us we are to the Giver.  Giving it away can do the same.  It shifts our reality, and makes us see everything around us differently.  Or to quote again from 1 John 4, “… If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us.” (v. 12 NKJV)  

Love isn’t a problem, but is the strength, courage, comfort, and contentment that God says it is.  Love stops being a problem… and becomes the solution to every problem.  May the inestimable power of the Holy Spirit create in your heart a perfect and Holy love that keeps you, and those who are gathered around you, today and every day!

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