Two Wholes Become One
Written by Rise & Shine on April 12, 2021
I’ve found a truth about my marriage… there may never come a day that I’m absolutely sure that I have found the keys to a “successful” marriage. After almost 24 years of highs, lows, and in-betweens, I’m still not ready to be married! I can honestly say that the only thing that has held us together sometimes has been God’s loving (and stubbornly correct) hand. Now why am I sharing all of this seemingly dire information you may ask? Simply because I wouldn’t have it any other way.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.
Love is sometimes as much an act of will as it is a feeling of emotion. It is a choice we make to exercise the gift God has given us for the benefit of those whom God loves as well, and with whom He allows us to be intertwined. I’m blessed to be in more than a marriage with my wife and best friend. We are in a LIFE together. We have a living that can’t be untangled easily. It is sometimes messy and frustrating, but more often than not, it is this beautiful weaving of the daily existence that comprises a work of art unlike any other. No one else may appreciate it as much as I do, but I can sit and ponder its intricate and layered complexities like other folks may contemplate a Rembrandt.
No, you don’t want to be simply married… you’re invested in something much more; something deeper. Your spouse doesn’t complete you. They’re not half of a person that fits half of you. They are a complete person who has gifts and faults just as you do. Their living compliments, balances and strengthens yours. And I pray that goes both ways.
Marriage is the moment that we make the commitment, the covenant before God, to love one another completely. Life is where we experience its benefit in full. Why would we desire less?